My Personal Experience
I’ve always been someone who oils her hair before every wash. It’s just something I’ve done for years because my hair has always loved it.
A few months ago, though, I developed a very itchy scalp. While treating it, my dermatologist asked me to stop oiling my hair for a while so the treatment could work properly. It was the right advice for my scalp at that time, so I followed it.
But as the weeks passed, I noticed my hair changing—and not in a good way.
My gray hair became incredibly dry. It was much frizzier than usual, and I was also dealing with severe hair fall, which made my hair feel thinner than ever. The texture completely changed. My hair felt rough, looked dull, and my silver strands just didn’t have that shine anymore. I also started noticing more brassiness than I normally do.
Once my scalp had healed, after discussing it with my dermatologist and considering how my hair was responding, I decided to gradually reintroduce pre-oiling and slowly brought pre-shampoo oiling back into my routine using extra virgin olive oil—an oil my hair has always responded well to. Around the same time, I washed my hair once with the Minimalist Anti-Dandruff Shampoo (3.5% Salicylic Acid) to give my scalp a good cleanse.
Within a couple of weeks, I noticed a huge difference.
The biggest change wasn’t the color—it was how my hair felt.
It was softer, smoother, and so much less frizzy. It looked healthier, reflected more light, and was much easier to manage.
And then I noticed something I wasn’t expecting.
My silver hair looked brighter.
The yellowish, dull appearance that had been bothering me seemed much less noticeable. My gray looked cleaner, shinier, and more vibrant.
At first, I thought maybe the anti-dandruff shampoo had somehow removed the brassiness. But the more I looked at my hair, the more I realized the real change wasn’t in the pigment—it was in the condition of my hair.
That made me wonder…
How much of what we call “brassiness” is actually the result of dry, frizzy, dehydrated gray hair that isn’t reflecting light well?
I’m not saying olive oil removes yellow tones from gray hair—it doesn’t. And I’m definitely not suggesting that everyone should oil their scalp, especially if they’re dealing with a scalp condition. In my case, I only started oiling again after my treatment was over.
What this experience taught me, though, is something I think we often overlook.
Before reaching for another purple shampoo or toner, it might be worth asking whether your gray hair is simply crying out for moisture.
Healthy, well-hydrated gray hair reflects light better, is less brassy, and naturally looks brighter. Sometimes, improving the condition of your hair can make just as much of a difference as trying to correct its color.
The Moment It Made Me Rethink Brassiness:
As I kept looking at my hair over the next few days, one question kept coming back to me.
Was my hair really less brassy… or was it simply healthier?
The more I thought about it, the more I realized that I hadn’t changed anything designed to tone yellow hair. I hadn’t reached for a purple shampoo or a purple mask. Instead, I had focused on improving the condition of my hair.
That made me look at my gray hair from a completely different perspective.
Maybe I was seeing the difference between healthy gray hair and dehydrated gray hair.
When my hair was dry, frizzy and rough, my silver looked dull and lacked shine.
When my hair became softer, smoother and better hydrated, it reflected light differently. The silver looked cleaner, brighter and far more vibrant.
That doesn’t mean every case of brassiness is caused by dryness. Hard water, chlorine, UV exposure and product buildup can all leave gray hair looking yellow.
But my experience made me realize that before trying to correct the colour of gray hair, we should first make sure the hair itself is healthy.
Sometimes, brighter gray hair isn’t about adding another toning product.
Sometimes it’s about giving your silver hair what it has been asking for all along—moisture.
My New Gray Hair Philosophy:
For years, whenever my gray hair started looking a little yellow, my first instinct was to think, “I need a purple shampoo.”
This experience made me realize that I had been looking at brassiness as a colour problem, when, in my case, it may have been just as much a hair-health problem.
When my hair was at its driest and frizziest, it also looked its dullest.
As my hair became softer and better hydrated, the silver seemed to come back to life. I wasn’t chasing brighter gray hair—it simply happened as my hair became healthier.
I’ve followed hundreds of women embracing their natural gray hair, and the ones whose hair always catches my eye aren’t necessarily the ones using the most purple shampoo. They’re the ones with healthy, well-moisturized hair. Their silver looks bright, vibrant and luminous, yet it rarely appears overly brassy.
That doesn’t mean I’ll stop using purple shampoo altogether. If my hair picks up yellow tones from hard water, chlorine or sun exposure, I’ll still reach for it.
But from now on, hydration will come first.
Because if my gray hair isn’t healthy, no toning product can make it look its best.
Now I’m curious…
Have you ever mistaken dry, dehydrated gray hair for brassiness?
I’d love to know if you’ve noticed a difference after improving your hair’s moisture or reducing frizz. Share your experience in the comments!