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Go Gray with Online and Offline Support

Each and every going gray journey is exceptionally unique. Culture, society and deep rooted beliefs regarding the beauty standards in various parts of world may exhibit diverse confrontations.Β 

In this post I’ve tried to throw light on various factors that may create difficulty in a smooth journey towards embracing our natural gray hair and how to create a supportive environment for making things easier for a smooth ride through this journey.

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Starting with Family...

I know the battle starts at the home itself.

Not everyone is lucky to have a family that would agree and say,” Go ahead, it’s your hair. Do whatever you feel like.” You may come across the questions like:

“This is not the age to go gray”

“You will look old”

“Wait for a few more years before you quit dying your hair”

Chances of getting such reactions and suggestions are more if you are young. Well, but YOU have made up your mind. Right?Β 

These questions may arise from any of the family members ( including your spouse). The reason behind their reactions to your decision must be out of their protective attitude, and concerns or not liking the very idea, both in a positive and negative sense. They know it’s your hair and you have the right to take any decision but you need to handle their reactions politely. Convincing them by putting up your strong reasons and points for embracing natural hair is advisable. Let them know how dye is affecting your health in general and hair in particular.

You may persuade your family by suggesting a mutual path ofLet me give it a try’. Assuring them you can always go back and colour your hair again. This way at least you may start your journey with their consent.

Read Gray Hair Transition Stories for encouragement from women who embraced their natural silver hair: Sparkling Silvers Stories

While talking about the family I can say that the most important supporter must be your spouse. If he/she is supportive, others’ opinion doesn’t matters much or let’s say won’t matter, as you need to spend your whole life with him/her. Mutual understanding will make things easy. Being your closest companion, they may cheer you up with some encouraging words and love.

Social Media..

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The concept of documenting gray hair journey can be super helpful for anybody going gray, especially for the women who are single or may have zero real life support. Instagram is the most popular platform for creating such documentations, allowing you to share your hair progress pictures along with stories. Instagram provides you two options on privacy setting on your account:

  1. Private You may opt for private account settings if you wish to keep your documentation private,Β  which allows access to your followers only to your posts.
  2. Public If you are comfortable sharing your documentation with random visitors to your account.

When I created my account I kept it private as I never wanted inappropriate comments and suggestions from strangers that may shake me up on my decision. I accepted follow requests ONLYΒ  from women going gray.

Virtual support in the form of discussions, inspiration, and connection with the like minded women on Instagram is incredible.

You may insert these popular hashtags to your posts to be seen in the silver sisters community on Instagram- #silversisters #goinggray #ditchthedye #silvervixen #saltandpepperhair and so on.

There are a few large supportive communities to follow and get inspired by the women featured with their inspirational stories. The most popular are @grombre @embracethegrey @silversistersinternational

Let me know if you have an Instagram account, documenting your Gray Hair Transition in the comment box. I would like to connect with you! Mine is @sparklingsilvers

Β Facebook Gray Hair Closed Groups have been in existence for many years now providing support to women going gray around the world. These are large communities of women with different age groups and countries, supporting and inspiring each other during the journey. You may join any of these amazing groups on Facebook:

Going Grey Gracefully

Going Gorgeously Gray!

Gray and Proud

The Silver Circle

Silver Revolution

Be Silver Sisters International

Also a closed group for my Indian Silver Sisters Sparklingsilvers India

And of course daily dose of inspiration on Pinterest is just unbeatable.

Incredible Friends...

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No doubt the support and love from the friends will be unconditional. They won’t sit back and judge your decision. Rather, provide a safe emotional space for you ‘to be yourself’.

Picking one or two very close friends, someone who knows you better and sharing your thoughts about your new adventure (going gray) can be a wise move. They will be there to give you advice and to support you through the difficult time you may face during the transition. They will understand you and no matter what the situation is will give you positive vibes,Β  your real life cheer leaders to share your experiences and small successes.Β 

Books..

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Though you must be very confident about your decision and able to face any challenge that may come in front of you, but some days are bad days and you can’t help it.

I was committed and confident enough to face any external situation during the transition but some days I felt low within. It just happens. And girls, believe me its Ok to feel like that sometimes. As a part of human nature it may happen. This was the the time when I grabbed my favorite books: The Secret, You Can Win, OSHO, Rising Strong and Wishful Drinking.

Here’s a list of some Silver Hair Books recommended by our Silver sisters:

At Workplace...

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“Why you letting yourself go?”

“Is everything all right in your life?”

“You look ugly.”

“Did you miss your colour appointment?”

..and many more such comments. People are people. Some may welcome your decision silently and some may bombard you with awful questions at your work place. You must be lucky to have some of your colleagues appreciating your decision. Those are theΒ  best to stick with along the journey.Β 

As workplace can be a very sensitive and tricky place to react. Letting yourself get too serious trying to justify what you are up to will only drain you out. Keeping things light can be a game changer.

Humor is another way to deal with rudeness at workplace. In a freaky moment laughter may restore normalcy. Some women find self-enhancing humor to be useful for providing an effective mechanism to cope with real circumstances.Β Β 

Otherwise you may just ignore with a smile. Have a look at how some of our fellow silversisters responded in different situations:Β 

When I started going silver, several coworkers said- oh you need to dye that! You’re going to look old! I told them- No way! I’m proud of my age and I worked hard for every silver strand. It’s the beginnings of my crown.

– Kica Savage

My husband noticed my roots yesterday. He said “oh I think you need some dye?” I gave him “the look” and said “I am growing it out”
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He took a minute to think and size up the situation- he realised that whatever he said next was going to get him castrated so he backed away and just said “yeah – cool”. He survived to live another day! That’s how we silvers roll!
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– Sam Pickersgill

Β I was given advice by someone out of style and frizzy hair..that I would look younger if I coloured. I said my goal isn’t to look younger but my age ..that’s perfect.

Most of all had been complements and younger girls asking what colour I use.
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I guess as saying beauty is in the eye of the beholder is true. What’s most important is what you really like and feel good with.
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– Freeda RicardoΒ 

Β My response is always “oh well, you gotta own it to rock it” and put on the biggest smile you got! Drives people crazy!!!
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– Annette LavigneΒ 
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Β I got “wow your brave!
I said “yes, I am”.
I got, But, you’re not even 50 yet!”
I said “I know! I will be so trendy!!”
Haha
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– Bethany Boggiatto LaBelleΒ 
Β Have had a “you’re letting yourself go” comment. I slowly looked them up and down with a slight smile on my face and cocked my right eyebrow.
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– Susan Bongard
Β I had people tell me my “roots’re getting a bit long, have you booked in to have them sorted?”
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To which I answered, “no I’m not colouring it any more. I was doing it for all the wrong reasons so decided to stop.”
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It left some of them a bit dumbfounded.
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– Julie Bond

Other people’s comments are almost always really about them and their issues or fears. When people offer unsolicited comments or opinions, just offer a ‘Hm’, and move on. No one but YOU gets a vote on YOUR decisions about YOUR body/life.

– Ena Logan

Ive has friends say “I would never do that” or “I’ll never let myself go like that.” I just say, well you are not me and I am really happy being my true self.

– Ellen Gore

Also read an article on Gray hair frizz and how to calm the dryness : Let’s Talk About Gray Hair Frizz

And last but not the least,Β YOU.

Who can give you more love and support during the transition than YOU yourself. I have seen so many examples of women who ditched the dye successfully with almost no support from the surroundings. How did they do that?Β 

This journey makes you stronger no matter the way you choose for the transition. Three months of my grow-out time gave me an insight of my inner strength. I found myself courageous to face difficult situations.Β 

For a woman her looks and hair are the prominent features of external beauty. Compromising with this fact can only be tough. And here the battle begins to accept the yourself and concentrate on the inner beauty.

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2 thoughts on “Go Gray with Online and Offline Support”

  1. Sarah Thorburn

    Thank you for this wonderful wealth of support for those choosing to go au natural! I have just started my transition (accidentally at first as I hadn’t ordered a new supply of henna before lockdown nor did I have the energy to waste time hennaing my hair when not seeing people anyway!) Then something strange began to happen, I was starting to LIKE my grays, becoming so much more comfortable and confident with being myself and the current Covid situation just adding to the ease of embracing these new found feels of acceptance.
    I have poured over your website, joined supportive groups as you have suggested (even announcing my pledge on one!) and set up a private Instagram account to document my exciting new adventure. I also have the advantage of having support from my own beautiful Mama who is herself a ‘silver sister’, that gave up henna a number of years ago, she made transitioning look easy and is absolutely rocking her silver locks.
    I can’t thank you enough! My Instagram is @silvers_the_new_black
    xxx

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