We keep on looking for inspirations that we can relate to. When I started my journey to go gray and created an Instagram documentation account, my first concern was to follow women to whom I could relate to in terms of age and hair colour. Amber was one of them. Her neat pictures and encouraging words were a great help to me during the whole process. My pleasure sharing with you all her beautiful journey.
β38 yo, married, and grey! How about instead of hiding it, letβs start celebrating!β
Those 2 simple lines are the bio on my Instagram account named β@celebratethegreyβ. And it was exactly what I intended to do. As a whole, women are conditioned from a young age to hate anything that shows aging. Somewhere along the line, grey hair was included in those signs of aging that women were taught to be ashamed of. I bought into it for many years. I first spotted my first grey hair somewhere around the age of 17. Since I had several family members grey prematurely, I knew to expect them at a young age.
As the years went by, more greys appeared. At the age of 25, while getting a routine haircut, the stylist commented that I seemed pretty young to have as much grey hair as I had. I told her how most of my family was the same way and that if I was to stop dying my hair that Iβd probably be about 50% grey. To which she replied that I actually would have been around 75-80%. Ouch! But on the bright side, it looks like it will be the pretty color that all the older women come in to try to achieve. Being a young 25 year old, what I heard from that was that Iβd be the envy of the nursing home. Thankfully as Iβve matured, my outlook on that has changed.
Fast forward to 2017. I was 36 years old and had been dying my grey roots for just around 19 years by then. It had gotten to the point of needing to dye my hair every 2 weeks to conceal the stark white contrast against my black hair. I remember January 20th, 2017 being the last time I dyed my hair. We were meeting some friends of a friend and wanted to make a good first impression. Roughly 2 weeks later, I looked in the mirror and saw that it yet again was time to cover my roots. Already having had one of those days where nothing seems to be going your way, I discovered that I didnβt have any hair dye at home. The last thing I wanted to do was run out to the store. Let alone go through the grueling process of dying my hair myself.
Thatβs when my first thoughts of ditching the dye came about. For the next week or so, I tossed the idea around. I asked my husband and daughter what they would think if I just let my hair grow. Both of them told me to do whatever made me happy. I consulted with some hairdresser friends, asking questions and for advice. I searched the internet for all the ways that women before me had transitioned to their natural grey hair. While I found many examples, I was hard pressed to find any examples of women with dark black hair and snow white roots. It was around this time that I decided to create my Instagram account to share my story. If I was looking for other examples of dark haired women going through this process, there had to more, right?
Once I had mulled over all the options, the only one that I could stomach was indeed the cold turkey long grow out. It ended up being the best thing I could have done! As early as 2 months into the process a complete stranger complimented my hair. I thought she must have been out of her mind. How in the world could anyone actually like my overgrown roots?
As my roots grew so did the number of compliments from strangers. At the grocery store, at the doctors office, everywhere. As someone that was not accustomed to receiving compliments, it was a little overwhelming to be honest. I had walked around practically invisible up until this point.
Let me be clear. I am a humble person. I grew up hating to have any attention on me. Therefore having people stop me wherever I went to ask about my hair was physically taxing at times. I found that trying to discredit their kind words just made it worse for myself. So I set out to simply accept them with a simple and heartfelt βThank you.β Over time it got easier. And I felt a major shift in my confidence.
In June of 2017, I was 5 months into the process and I started to become bored. I desperately needed a change. It felt as if my hair stopped growing as fast as it did in the beginning. Thatβs when I chose to go for a shorter haircut.
I had worn a stacked bob hairstyle several years before that so it was an easy decision. The cut served 2 purposes. First was a much needed distraction. Being distracted by the shorter style took my mind off of the seemingly slow growing process. And secondly the style was much more modern and younger looking.
You may like reading: 11 Grey Pixie Accounts to Follow on Instagram
I kept that same hair style for the remainder of my transition to becoming fully grey. Without really thinking about it, having to get regular trims helped to trim away more and more of the leftover dye at the ends of my hair.
And slowly I got to see the demarcation line that I once dreaded move farther from the crown of my head. It took a long 20 months from beginning to end. And my only regret was not doing it sooner!
Now being completely natural, I feel like Iβve finally found myself. The confidence I gained through this process gave me the boost to also work on my health. Knowing that I had the patience to grow out my hair gave me the confidence that I had the endurance to be patient with weight loss as well.
Also read: Grey Hair Friendly Shampoos
Along with those changes, I started noticing small changes in my choice of clothing and makeup. Where I once leaned toward black clothing to match my hair, I found myself reaching for greys. As for makeup, the only real change Iβve noticed has been wearing lipstick more often. With fair skin and white around my hairline, a bold color on my lips help bring needed color to my face.
My advice to anyone mulling over the choice to go grey is that you never know if youβll like it until you try it. It is scary at first. There is absolute uncertainty in the beginning. Give yourself some time to weigh your options until youβve found the way that you think will work best for you. And then stick with it. You have nothing to lose, but absolute freedom from dye to gain. Most importantly, do whatever makes YOU happy. Whether that be to ditch the dye or to continue dying your hair. Your happiness is above all else!
Lets Connect!
Wow. You look absolutely beautiful. I have to say that your natural state makes you look much younger too.
I am 50 and have been growing out my grey hair for about a year and I love it. During lockdown I have washed it twice a week and let it dry naturally, without heat. My hair finally looks healthy, bouncy and curly. I feel like me again and could not be happier. Itβs worth a go and we all look and feel better for embracing our true selves. Thank you for your story. Keep being your beautiful self.
Thank you for your inspiring βgoing grayβ story and the very cute pics.
You look so much younger with your beautiful gray hair! Your gray is lovely with all the shades of gray.
Funny how we think we look better with darker hair until we try something different! Iβm just sorry I didnβt decide to go gray at your age, I am 60 something young now, still very young looking , but now Iβm not afraid of βlooking olderβ if I go gray! Wonderful seeing so many women at different ages going grayπ
I know I am βsoβ ready now!. Iβve been reading so many articles, looking at pictures of women like yourself who went gray, all so beautiful! Iβm so anxious that I even thought of going to California to have Jack Martin transition my hair!
So agin, thank you for your story. Iβve decided to go βcold turkeyβ and just let it grow out while cutting my hair as I go!
Stay Happy!
You and your gray hair are beautiful! Iβm 69 β and sadly not βstill very young lookingβ like Maryann β but Iβve been doing this cold turkey since March 17th and Iβm determined to stick with it! But OMGOSH its such a slow process!
Fantastic, inspiring story, your hair looks beautiful and so healthy looking. Lockdown gave me the push I needed to transition from dark brown to grey, the last time I dyed my hair was beg Feb 2020. I donβt have much patience but have resolved myself that it will probably be next summer before it fully transitions. Exciting times ahead π
I transitioned from very dark brown hair to my natural gray over a one and a half year period.
I went to an Aveda salon where they gradually and safely brought my hair down a few steps every month or so. It really helped by not getting depressed during the process.
Once my hair grew all the way out, I experimented with cut and style.
Some things I have learned is hot irons will Yellow your hair. Use the best products you can find. Enjoy being gray. I love it.
Iβm 29 at the moment and expecting my second child. During quarantine I decided that it was time to just let my grays grow out. Once they have grown half way I might go to the salon to match the lower part with my grays. I canβt wait.
Definitely you can! Go for it. Even blending can be done with a few inches of growth. Your hairstylist may guide you for the same.